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Wow! 11,172 views to this blog in one day – yesterday…

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11118634_xXlupere_c I guess a lot of people really care about Morgan’s case and want to see her get justice.

There have been over 5 million views on this blog since I started it the summer of 2012.  The largest amount of people that ever viewed this blog in one day totaled 227,488 and that really blew me away.  It was by far the largest number we have ever seen in one day, and since then the numbers have stayed pretty consistent on average between 1,000 – 3,00 per day.

I am so excited that more and more people are reading her story, and awareness of how brutally harsh the reality of stalking is grows.  About how stalking turns your life upside down.  If one thing could come from the absolute horror that Morgan’s stalking and murder were I would want it to be awareness.  Awareness so that others do not suffer the same fate.  Morgan did nothing to deserve what happened to her, nor do the other victims of stalking, they all deserve the rights we all hold so dear.  I am determined to raise awareness about the seriousness of stalking so change is eventually made and victims can get the help they need, not only to just survive, but to get their lives back too.  Stalking victims have so many of their rights stripped away from them, and we all have to do a better job to help.

But yesterday as the number of views on the blog spiked up to 11,172 – there was something else that was going on at the same time.  While so many people were reading Morgan’s story, I was doing my best to help another victim of stalking.  There are decisions that need to be made by the victim and they are very tough decisions, each and every one of them holds the possibility of profoundly affecting their life.

For instance there is the subject of protection orders.  The idea is simple, once you know who your stalker is then go before a judge and request that your stalker can’t be anywhere you are.  If granted by the judge then the victim now has a little safety, as long as the stalker obeys the law and respects the order.  Only the stalker is already breaking the law repeatedly by stalking and what if they don’t respect the court order to stay away?  Worse yet what if the order to stay away only angers the stalker and the victim is in more danger than they were before?

This is what I mean by very tough decisions, every one of them.  In Morgan’s case we were asked to delay getting a protection order so the sheriffs could have a better chance of catching him.  Morgan wanted the protection order, but we decided to trust what we were being told so we did wait, only the wait became another wait, and then no protection order ever.  Now of course I feel like that was such a mistake. I know that protection orders can come with dangers of their own, but never getting one didn’t help Morgan either.  Tough decisions.  How much easier it would be if you were not being stalked at all, no stalker, no victim, no need to stress over a protection order.  In a perfect world wouldn’t that be nice?

Stalking victims truly lose so much of their simple everyday life.  Think of your cell phone, leaving anything like, “find my phone,” turned on in case you misplace your phone is out of the question, too dangerous because it could very easily be tracked by your stalker.  Social media, forget about it, no selfie pictures, no gushing about the restaurant, or your fabulous vacation, or even your flat tire.  Anything that gives away your location or patterns can be used against you by your stalker.

Please always remember – anyone at anytime can become a victim.  It is never the fault of the victim.  Although women are more likely to be stalked than men, anyone can be a victim of stalking, including college students, victims can be from any economic, ethnic, or religious group.  The National Center for Victims of Crime says that 1 in 4 women and 1 in 13 men will be victims of stalking in their lifetime.  Stalking is the most under reported crime in our nation at this time and it is serious… so change has to be made.

I just have to share this closing thought from the Legislature of Colorado in their decree on stalking.

The general assembly hereby recognizes the seriousness posed by stalking and adopts the provisions of this part 6 with the goal of encouraging and authorizing effective intervention before stalking can escalate into behavior that has even more serious consequences. 

Thank you all for supporting Morgan as well as sharing her story with others in order to raise awareness.  Morgan was taken from us by her stalker, but I want her story to be a reminder to everyone that stalking can be deadly, so always please take it seriously, especially if you should ever become a victim, and if you are not a victim, then reach out to  anyone whom you discover is a victim.  There might be some little thing you could do that would bring a measure of comfort to their lives.

Thank You…

 

Help Spread the Word…We want an investigation!

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https://www.change.org/p/colorado-state-governor-john-hickenlooper-we-want-morgan-ingram-s-felony-stalking-investigation-opened-with-the-attorney-general-s-office

This petition along with all of your signatures and heartfelt comments have all been sent & received by Colorado Governor Hickenlooper. We now hope that he contacts the Attorney General’s office in support of an investigation into Morgan’s stalking & suspicious death.

Thank you all so very much!!!

Please spread the word and let everyone know the Governor has received this petition. Sending 5 friends the link to the petition would be helpful as well.  We are unable to travel at this time to Colorado in order to have a rally so I would kindly ask you all to call Governor Hickenlooper’s office to show your continued support in our effort to have Morgan Ingram’s case opened with the Attorney General’s office – Governor Hickenlooper’s office number is 303-866-2471.

Another way you could help us would be to engage the media and ask them to run Morgan’s story with this petition as well as her reward poster as seen on https://morgansstalking.com/?p=5122.

Every time I see the following quote I understand that we can never give up, because if we do there will be even more victims that will be gone without a case…and in what world should that ever be acceptable?  It never will be okay.

“Justice will not be served until those who are unaffected are as outraged as those who are” – Benjamin Franklin

Again, thank you all so much – we couldn’t have done it without all your support.

From all of us at the Ingram Family

VICTORY – The Petition to Colorado State Governor John Hickenlooper Has Been Received

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I want to shout out a big THANK YOU to everyone that signed the petition to Colorado Governor Hickenlooper.  The petition has been delivered and we are now awaiting an answer.  I promise to keep you all updated on any replies I receive from the Governor.

It was so wonderful to read through all the comments that were posted with the petition.  You were all so passionate and strong that it filled my heart with love as I read through them.

In the past three years since Morgan’s stalking and murder I have come to realize that this is not only a total injustice to her and our family, but to everyone.  With over 1,600 cold cases in Colorado alone, and at this moment in time Morgan’s case isn’t even considered a cold case because of the incorrect manner of death that is listed on her death certificate, it’s not hard to understand that murderers are still out there, still free to walk among us.  Every time I see the following quote I understand that we can never give up, because if we do there will be even more victims that will be gone without a case…and in what world should that ever be acceptable?

“Justice will not be served until those who are unaffected are as outraged as those who are” – Benjamin Franklin

https://www.change.org/p/colorado-state-governor-john-hickenlooper-we-want-morgan-ingram-s-felony-stalking-investigation-opened-with-the-attorney-general-s-office

Valentine post card…I miss you

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Morgan I miss you so much and I just remembered the Valentine gift I gave you that has never been found – it was on your keychain with your house key.  A little frog prince charm with sparkling crystals on it from Red Envelope…who took it?  Another mystery item never found after you were gone.  I’m sure someone knows what happened to your keychain.

The Warmth of a Horse…

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tcatrancOnly 2 days before Morgan’s last day on this earth it was a Tuesday; a cold but sunny December afternoon.  Morgan came home from school, ate lunch and asked if I would go with her down to the ranch behind our house to enjoy a short visit with our horse TC.  I said yes, as I had not taken a lunch break yet and thought this would be a good excuse to get up from my desk and stretch my legs.  We grabbed a couple of carrots, drove around the corner, parked the car, went in the barn to get his brushes.  We then walked over to visit with TC.

TC was in a corral with a few other horses, but that didn’t stop him from running to the fence as soon as he heard Morgan’s voice.  Morgan was only 2 years old when TC was born on our ranch in Old Snowmass, CO and the connection between Morgan and TC had always been a very strong one.  We went in the corral, put on his halter and walked him out of his corral.  I held him while Morgan gave him a quick brush-out.  TC was nuzzling her the whole time.  As soon as she was done she put her arms around his neck and laid her face right up against his neck, soaking in his warmth.  She closed her eyes and stayed in that position for a really long time.  I said nothing – just watched.  TC closed his eyes too and stood perfectly still the whole time.  Finally Morgan spoke.  She said, “TC always makes everything feel better.  Can we come down here every day this week?”  I almost started to cry – I knew she was so very exhausted and stressed out over the fear that was created by her stalker.  As a mom I wanted to make it all better, but had no idea how to do that.  I told Morgan, “Of course we can.”

TC has always been a “healing” horse…many animals have that gift.  I have always been grateful to have this beautiful, kind, loving paint horse in our family…and please understand he is not just a “horse” he is truly part of our family.  As fate would have it the next two days, Wednesday and Thursday, we were unable to take a break and go down to the ranch and then by Friday morning it was too late…Morgan was dead.

Many people will not understand what I am about to say…and many people will understand completely.  The afternoon of Friday, December 2, 2011 was the worse day of my entire life.  Morgan was dead, and the shock of losing her was tremendous.  That same afternoon, while I was sitting on the couch crying, all of a sudden I had an extremely strong “feeling” that I should go over to the ranch because nobody had told TC.  I got up and started for the front door.  All of a sudden my sister-in-law asked me where I was going.  When I told her she said she was not about to let me go anywhere by myself.  So we both headed over to the ranch.  As I was walking towards TC’s corral I noticed two horses up against the fence, but I didn’t see TC.  As I got closer I saw TC in the center of the corral looking at me.  I couldn’t understand why he wasn’t coming over to the fence like he had his whole life.  The look in his eyes was so strange.  As I got closer to the corral I just blurted out, “I am so sorry TC she’s gone.”  All of a sudden TC, our big gentle horse,  reared up in the air – striking out with both his front hooves, as he tossed his head and screamed.  I can only describe the sound that was coming from him as an ‘angry guttural moan’…his eyes were wide open, nostrils flaring, he came back down to the ground and started to turn in circles, kicking out with his back legs.  The other horses in the corral gave him a wide berth – they were not about to go near him.  He was acting like a wild stallion.

I finally reached the fence, and collapsed against it crying.  I kept saying, “I know TC I wasn’t able to protect her,” but he would not come to the fence, he just kept running around in circles, nostrils flaring, stomping at the ground.  Just like the other horses in his corral I knew he didn’t want me, or anyone else around him.  He was hurt, angry, and didn’t want to accept that Morgan was gone – do you wonder how I knew what he was thinking?  Anyone watching him at that very moment would have known what he was thinking and feeling just by the look in his eyes, and how he was acting…it doesn’t take a horse whisperer, or an animal communicator to understand – all it took was to watch, and hear his extreme anguish.  Anguish that is not only a human feeling, but a feeling that animals possess as well.

My sister-in-law walked up behind me and gave me a hug.  In-between sobs I told TC that I loved him, and I turned to walk away.  With a heart that was breaking, and a mind that was trying to convince me that this was all a very horrible dream, I went back to our house.  When I arrived back at the house Steve asked me why I had gone to the ranch.  I didn’t really understand why I went except that I felt someone had to tell TC – he loved her too.   I told Steve exactly how TC had reacted.  He then said something to me that set me back on my heals…he asked, “Do you think TC saw him?”  To this day I still wonder.  He was in a corral just on the other side of the berm behind our house – the berm where the stalker(s) would sneak up from behind our house.  The berm that had a trail worn into it during the stalking.  The trail the sheriffs had seen and told us about.  Could he have seen something?  Maybe, but he is only a horse, and had no way to warn us.

Life is a very precious thing, and every day is precious as well.  Sometimes when I look into TC’s eyes I can see that his mind gently drifts away with happy thoughts of Morgan, and I wonder if he can still see her.  I am so grateful for all the wonderful memories that everyone, including TC have of her.  She is still felt in the warmth of the sun, the gentle breezes as well as the sparkle in the fresh snow.  Morgan is still always around us and never gone.  Love can never be taken away – it remains forever.