When the pain gets too heavy…

Recently, for the past 3 months, my heart has been heavy. It has been extremely hard to keep from crying, and for the most part, the tears just kept coming; for the first time in so many years, I allowed those tears to fall. I allowed myself not to be strong.

After we lost our daughter Morgan, I felt like I was just in survival mode for the longest time, but through it all, I had Steve. Then, when Steve died last year, I tried to stay strong, but that wasn’t sustainable; I finally crumbled. Steve had been my rock all those years after Morgan’s murder, and I could not imagine moving forward without him, but I did, because I had no choice.

I know grief comes in waves, especially when you least expect it. A song, a picture, a familiar place where memories were once made- they can all trigger a deep, painful wave of sadness.

But I wanted to share these thoughts with you about my feelings of grief that have consumed me in the past few months. There may be times when it seems there is no escape and no relief from the ache that continues to grow inside you. In those moments, please remember: you do not have to force yourself to be strong. I was trying for so long to be strong, but I finally surrendered to it.

Sometimes, we must allow ourselves to feel the pain before healing can begin. I know you may want to push it away; I did. You may not want anyone to see you fall apart. But falling apart does not mean you are weak—it means you have loved deeply and lost someone who mattered beyond words.

For now, just carry this moment. You do not have to carry tomorrow yet.

Cry as much as you need to. Write down what you are feeling, talk with someone you trust, or simply just give yourself permission to be still and breathe.

You are allowed to take things slowly. You are allowed to rest. Keeping busy may offer a temporary distraction, but you do not have to outrun your grief. When you are ready, you can face it gently—one breath, one memory, and one day at a time.

Remember that emotions change, even when they feel permanent. The pain may never disappear completely; how could it, when you have loved someone so deeply, and they are no longer here? But with time, you may learn to carry that love and sorrow side by side.

Slowly, the weight may begin to shift. The memories that once brought only tears may someday bring comfort, warmth, or even a little smile.

What feels impossible to bear today may, in time, become a little softer to carry. That is my hope for you, as it is for myself. Sending peace and love your way, today and always.

7.6 Million Views on this Blog…Morgansstalking.com

Hard to believe—I just checked the stats on this blog, and there have been 7.6 million views and nearly 7,900 comments since I started. Wow. I never imagined that many people would find their way here and take the time to read Morgan’s story.

When I began this blog, my hopes were simple and deeply personal:
to tell Morgan’s story,
to help others recognize the warning signs,
to share what to do if you’re being stalked,
and to raise awareness about the very real dangers and seriousness of stalking.

If even one life is saved because of something shared here, then every word has been worth it.

Sometimes it’s the simplest steps that matter most:

📒 Document every incident
📸 Save screenshots and messages
👮 Report it to the police
🧳 Keep a go-bag ready
🐾 Have a safety plan for your pets

You’re not alone—and knowledge can be a powerful first step toward safety.

 

When Law Enforcement Fails To Help Victims…

When a case does not receive a complete and competent law enforcement investigation, it is truly devastating. I have worked with many co-victims across the country, and sadly, this happens everywhere.

Sometimes it is due to a lack of enthusiasm. Sometimes it is because mistakes were made early in the investigation, and officials try to cover up that incompetence. Sometimes it is done to keep crime statistics down. Sometimes—yes, this really does happen—it is to protect someone who has connections to law enforcement. There are many reasons.

Even when mistakes occur, they are sometimes hidden to avoid accountability. Then the cover-up of the mistake becomes another problem, and the cover-up of the cover-up grows even worse.

Go figure. I guess the victims don’t matter, and the fact that these failures can leave a murderer walking the streets is somehow considered acceptable.

 https://aequitasresource.org/ – AEquitas advances justice in cases of sexual violence, intimate partner violence, stalking, and human trafficking by equipping prosecutors and their multidisciplinary partners with the training, expertise, and strategies to hold offenders accountable and deliver fair, effective justice for survivors. We’re a team of former prosecutors and multidisciplinary experts who have decades of experience and specialized expertise, working globally to hold offenders accountable and promote victim safety.

AEquitas explains it this way:

“Typically, the perpetrator harasses and attacks the victims and the victim’s family. Often, the offender’s family members and friends attack as well (they say, ‘Don’t snitch to others’). When members of the criminal justice system do not respond appropriately to intimidation and fail to correct system deficiencies that enable opportunities to intimidate, they become inadvertent accomplices to the intimidators. The victim, victim’s or witness’s immediate family, including spouses, children, and pets, become targets.”

This is exactly what happened during the stalking. A detective attempted to speak with the main suspect, but he moved out of the house where he was living to avoid the sheriff’s department. When the detective went to the suspect’s workplace, the suspect’s father threatened the deputies.

The deputies asked the father to bring his son in for questioning. Although the suspect was over 18, his father eventually brought him in. They insisted he was innocent and threatened to sue. The sheriff’s department backed off.

After our daughter was killed, the second suspect and her father even took us to court because of my blog, morgansstalking.com. They were able to obtain free legal assistance to continue harassing us, while we were forced to spend thousands of dollars on an attorney we could not afford.

Of course, they lost—but we were still left paying the price. We already paid the highest price imaginable—we lost our daughter. Yet, we were still forced to defend ourselves simply for speaking the truth and seeking justice for her. That is the reality many victims’ families face.

We grieve, we fight, and we refuse to be silent while failures in the system allow dangerous people to remain free. Silence protects the wrong people. And as long as we have a voice, we will keep using it.

The System Failed Us, like so many others…

We lost our daughter. The system failed her. But our voice will never be silenced.

When a family loses someone to violence, the pain never truly leaves. You carry it every day. Like so many other families who have become co-victims of unimaginable crimes, and victims who have fought their way to becoming survivors, we know the truth cannot stay hidden when people have the courage to speak.

Silence protects the wrong people. Speaking up protects the future.

So we will keep speaking. For our daughter. For every victim whose story deserves to be heard. And for every family still searching for justice. With the strength of others who refuse to look away, we believe crimes will be solved, truth will come to light, and victims and co-victims will one day receive the justice—and peace—they deserve.

Some days, the fight feels overwhelming. Grief is heavy, and the road is long. But we are stronger than we ever imagined we could be.

And we will never stop until justice prevails. 💜

The Stalking and Murder of Morgan Ingram Pt.3 – The Victim’s Voice: A True Crime Podcast

This is the final episode of the Morgan Ingram case. We talk about Morgan’s 11-minute autopsy, the toxicology reports, and the many mistakes in the death report from Garfield County.

Check out The Victims Voice Facebook Page for photos from this episode!

https://open.spotify.com/search/The%20stalking%20and%20murder%20of%20morgan%20ingram%20pt.3