Turning Pain into Protection for Others

When you turn pain into protection for others, it matters more than you know. 💜

A very wise person once said, “You don’t heal from trauma by forgetting it happened. You heal by changing your relationship with what happened.”

That shift in perspective changed everything for me.

After the loss of my precious daughter, Morgan, I realized that healing didn’t mean leaving her story behind. Instead, it meant carrying it forward with purpose. It meant turning unimaginable pain into awareness, advocacy, and protection for others.

If sharing Morgan’s story helps even one person recognize danger sooner, speak up, or find the courage to ask for help, then her life continues to make a difference in this world.

Pain can break us—but it can also become the very thing that helps protect someone else. And that matters more than words can ever fully express. 💜

Here are the stages of healing from pain:

  • Acknowledgment: Accepting that it happened
  • Understanding: Learning what it taught you
  • Integration: Making the lessons part of who you are
  • Service: Using your experience to help others

 

#StalkingAwareness #TrustYourInstincts #ItIsNotYourFault #SurvivorSupport

Recent Podcast – Please listen if you get a moment

I was recently a guest on the following podcast. Please watch it when you have a moment.

https://youtu.be/Cbcg_yv4Pa4

Host: Carol Witt – Founder @ Y.E.A. Global | Teaching Mindset & The 7 Pillars to Thrive | Coach • Trainer • Author • Podcast Host • Song Writer | In collaboration with Amir A. Abdalla—Transforming 1M Leaders by 2030

Carol wrote:

We Are Not Talking About This Enough. And It Is Costing Lives.
Last Friday on Women Empowered Across The World, we heard a story that no parent should ever have to tell.
Toni Ingram lost her daughter to stalking in 2011.
Let that sit.
Her daughter, Morgan, was not “overreacting.”
She was not “being dramatic.”
She was not “imagining it.”
She was being stalked.
And the system did not protect her in time.
Out of unimaginable grief, Toni chose purpose.
She became a victims’ advocate.
She founded MorganIngram.com, a platform dedicated to educating the public about stalking behaviors, warning signs, and victim support.
She now serves as West Coast Director for Families of Homicide Victims and Missing Persons, working tirelessly to improve awareness, justice system protocols, and survivor resources.
This is not a rare problem.
Stalking is often minimized.
Dismissed.
Romanticized in media.
Ignored until it escalates.
And it escalates.
Toni shared realities most people do not understand:
• Stalking is patterned, obsessive behavior — not “harmless attention.”
• Victims often struggle to be believed.
• Law enforcement systems are not always connected across jurisdictions.
• Safe homes often do not accommodate pets — forcing victims to choose between safety and leaving their animals behind.
• Education is severely lacking for youth and adults alike.
We talk about empowerment.
We talk about leadership.
We talk about boldness.
But empowerment without safety is incomplete.
If your daughter says she is scared — believe her.
If your friend says someone won’t stop contacting them — take it seriously.
If you are in leadership — advocate for stronger policies and awareness programs.
We need:
✔ National databases that connect stalking incidents
✔ Education in schools about stalking behaviors
✔ Better cross-agency communication
✔ Expanded safe housing resources
✔ Community awareness campaigns
This is not just a legal issue.
It is a cultural issue.
And culture changes when leaders speak.
Toni’s courage to relive her loss publicly is not for attention — it is for prevention.
She does not want another mother to stand where she stands.
This post is not meant to be comfortable.
It is meant to wake you up.
Stalking is real.
It is escalating.
It is deadly.
And ignoring it does not make it disappear.
If this message moves you:
Share it.
Talk about it.
Educate your children.
Support advocacy organizations.
Demand better systems.
Awareness saves lives. Please watch this episode and share it with everyone
https://lnkd.in/ens8itPF

Check our playlist of over 130 inspiring stories
https://lnkd.in/emvYdvsM

Hosts: Carol Witt, Jaclyn Zoccoli, Meg Grett-Pratt, Pat Tracy

National Crime Victims’ Rights Week 2025

I know that I have not posted in a very long time – I apologize for that. I have had a lot going on that I will write about at a later date. In the meantime, I just wanted to let everyone know that as of today, the start of National Crime Victim’s Rights Week has started.

It is extremely important that we all understand the rights of crime victims, especially in the world we currently live in. 

Recognizing that shared humanity should be at the center of supporting all survivors and victims of crime, because it drives vital connections to services, rights, and healing.

This year’s National Crime Victims’ Rights Week theme is “Connecting <KINSHIP> Healing.” KINSHIP is the
foundation of victim advocacy—it’s what fuels the work of advocates and helps them form meaningful connections
that promote healing and understanding. If you have been a victim of crime, whether it has been stalking, sexual assault, or any type of violence, please know there are people that can help. Do not suffer in silence. 

Victim Compensation and Assistance in Your State

Learn how to apply for crime victim compensation and find contact information for victim assistance programs on their Victim Compensation and Assistance in Your State page.

Stay strong and NEVER give up!

 

Document, document, document…everything!

Always document every single incident, your feelings about that incident; were you frightened, stressed, couldn’t sleep, felt like your stalker was going to get to you (no matter how hyper vigilant you were being)?

It is so very important to have a timeline with the date, time, what you did about it, what happened and how you felt about what you had just experienced. Documenting every incident, keeping that log in a secure place, will help law enforcement build a case against your stalker.

Stay safe!