Category Archives: Toni’s reflections

Document, document, document…everything!

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Always document every single incident, your feelings about that incident; were you frightened, stressed, couldn’t sleep, felt like your stalker was going to get to you (no matter how hyper vigilant you were being)?

It is so very important to have a timeline with the date, time, what you did about it, what happened and how you felt about what you had just experienced. Documenting every incident, keeping that log in a secure place, will help law enforcement build a case against your stalker.

Stay safe!

YES, THERE IS HELP FOR VICTIMS OF STALKING

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PLEASE READ BELOW TO SEE WHAT RESOURCES ARE AVAILABLE

Back in 2011, when our youngest daughter was being stalked, we had no idea about what to do, or where to turn. Most everyone we turned to had another idea, but in the end, nothing worked and we lost our youngest daughter, Morgan. Please, please, please, be informed, learn from the information that is now available.

What help is there for victims of stalking?

If you believe you’re a victim of stalking, the Stalking Prevention, Awareness, and Resource Center provides guidance and resources in the What to Do if You Are Being Stalked section of their website.

Supported by the National Institute of Justice (NIJ), the Violence Against Women Research Consortium published a series of training videos and resources that cover stalking laws and best practices for law enforcement and prosecutors in stalking investigations.

January is always now recognized as National Stalking Awareness Month – an annual call to action to recognize and respond to the crime of stalking.

Stalking is dangerous and potentially lethal – be informed

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Stalking is a serious crime. Stalking is dangerous and potentially lethal, as it was in my daughter, Morgan Ingram’s case. Education and awareness are the keys to protect future victims. It is important to know what to do and how to protect yourself, or your loved ones.

 

From the Office of Justice Programs

Overview

What is stalking?

Legal definitions vary from one jurisdiction to another. Still, stalking is generally defined as a pattern of behavior directed at a specific person that would cause a reasonable person to feel fear. A crime in all 50 states and at the federal level, stalking is dangerous and potentially lethal.

 

Understanding the tragic consequences of stalking…

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Understanding the tragic consequences of stalking: Join us as we shed light on Morgan’s story and raise awareness about the importance of recognizing and addressing stalking behaviors.

1st episode in a series of 3 – please click on the link to listen to the all 3 episodes, starting with this 1st one.

https://open.spotify.com/episode/4jfm1BFLnnqFIQ9CcC1FcI?si=bbNl3l2ERvSZdDsWLogljA

     Please don’t forget Morgan. She was a talented and kind soul who didn’t deserve to be tortured like this.

It is important for everyone to work together to end stalking. NISVS findings highlight the importance of early prevention and support efforts, which can include:

 

Missing Morgan every single day…

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Today, I just came across a wallet that Morgan made out of scraps of “things.” It was always so much fun to see all the different things she would create and share with me. When I touch the things she used to touch, I feel so close to her, and yet so far. It is a feeling that is too hard to express.

Every moment of every day, I miss her. I miss her eyes, her smile, her soft voice, her loving and caring ways. My heart still hurts after all these years, because I miss her so very much. Every morning when I wake up, I just miss her all over again…it never ends.

Does it seem fair that our beautiful life was destroyed by a selfish and obsessed stalker? No.

Does it seem fair that a beautiful, young 20-year-old life was taken? No.

Does it seems fair that all the co-victims, people who loved Morgan, can never find peace? No.

Life is not fair, and I can never bring Morgan back, but I can make sure she is always remembered. I can make sure that other lives are spared, as long as I continue to raise awareness, warn others about the real threat of stalkers, and continue to fight for justice.

When Morgan died, my life changed forever. I am not the person I used to be. Someone once said, “Grief never ends…but it changes. It’s a passage, not a place to stay. Grief is not a sign of weakness, nor a lack of faith…it is the price of love.”