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One of our readers sent in this information; I thought it would be good to share with you all – the more we are educated about things, the safer we will all be, as well as our children

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Please read & share with others in conversation.  Facts and education are key to stopping so many criminals before they can escalate.  Especially for our law enforcement officers.

STALKERS:

Most stalkers are what Zona (1993) and Geberth (1992) call “Simple Obsessional” or, as Mullen and Pathe put it (1999) – “Rejected”. They stalk their prey as a way of maintaining the dissolved relationship (at least in their diseased minds). They seek to “punish” their quarry for refusing to collaborate in the charade and for resisting their unwanted and ominous attentions.

Such stalkers come from all walks of life and cut across social, racial, gender, and cultural barriers. They usually suffer from one or more (comorbid) personality disorders. They may have anger management or emotional problems and they usually abuse drugs or alcohol. Stalkers are typically lonely, violent, and intermittently unemployed – but they are rarely full fledged criminals.

Contrary to myths perpetrated by the mass media, studies show that most stalkers are men, have high IQ’s, advanced degrees, and are middle aged (Meloy and Gothard, 1995; and Morrison, 2001).

Rejected stalkers are intrusive and inordinately persistent. They recognize no boundaries – personal or legal. They honor to “contracts” and they pursue their target for years. They interpret rejection as a sign of the victim’s continued interest and obsession with them. They are, therefore, impossible to get rid of. Many of them are narcissists and, thus, lack empathy, feel omnipotent and immune to the consequences of their actions.
Even so, some stalkers are possessed of an uncanny ability to psychologically penetrate others. Often, this gift is abused and put at the service of their control freakery and sadism. Stalking – and the ability to “mete out justice” makes them feel powerful and vindicated. When arrested, they often act the victim and attribute their actions to self-defense and “righting wrongs”.

Stalkers are emotionally labile and present with rigid and infantile (primitive) defense mechanisms: splitting, projection, projective identification, denial, intellectualization, and narcissism. They devalue and dehumanize their victims and thus “justify” the harassment or diminish it. From here, it is only one

Investigative Reporting on Morgan’s Stalking and Murder by a Local Radio Station

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Ed Williams, reporting for our local radio station KDNK Carbondale just ran a series of reports on the radio about our daughter’s case – I am attaching the link so you can listen if you like.

Every day that pasts so many of you readers have forwarded me evidence that we did not even know about, and we so greatly appreciate it…that’s why between Team Morgan and Morgan’s Army of Angels I know when we finally get the whole investigation together, with all the evidence this case will be reopened.  There is still a stalker/murderer out there so don’t kid yourself.

There are thousands of people in our world that have experienced horrific stalking, and LE was never able to help them, and in some cases completely blew them off, and they are lucky to be alive.  The toll that has been taken on all these stalking victims is immense, and the common thing they tell me is they have learned not to count on law enforcement – this is so wrong!  Law enforcement can not always catch or save everyone, but they need to wake up and realize if something they are doing is not working – fix it and try to save people.

I have spoken with other families across the United States that have gone through this same process, and in those cases it took between 3 – 15 years to get a conviction, because their children were deemed a suicide without the proper investigation.  It took the families everything they could muster to hire other professionals (other than LE), and put together a case that could go to a higher LE agency, and then get reopened in order to get a prosecution.  We have been told to pace ourselves, and keep doing what we are doing and eventually there will be an arrest…and we will!

November 25, 2011 – Day 116 of Morgan’s Stalking – Quiet? Maybe Not!

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Yesterday we had a wonderful Thanksgiving day with Morgan.  The leftovers are always the best part for me, and the Maroon Creek Club knows this, we left with more than we ate there!  We almost had leftovers for breakfast.

Steve left early for work, he has deadlines and he is not one to shy away from that.  Nothing makes him happier than keeping up with what he has to do.  Morgan and I have a breakfast together, and talk about Steve. She is worried that he is so worried about her.  I tell her that is funny, because he is worried that she is so worried about him.  We laugh and talk about the place he wants us to move to.  About how he would have never told her, but it was about how great the defensive stance from there is.

Even though I have promised Steve to not say this, I talk about how we are both so worried about her and for the immediate future it is a good move.  Morgan does not want us to worry.  She echoes something Steve had said often, about how all of the security measures we have put in place have created an invisible 10 foot barrier around the house…I’m not completely convinced.

I remind Morgan that he also says that the 10 foot barrier is all we have, and we really need much more than that.  She pauses and is quite reflective, agreeing that maybe we should move. I never really thought she would agree with that, but suddenly she had.  It is nothing less than a breath of fresh air to me, I tell her I will tell her Daddy and he will be so happy to move.  That her safety is all he cares about.

Morgan gushes with surprise as she always does at moments like this.  Her Daddy is so important to her, just like he is to her big sister, she says it will be a big job, and are we sure we want to do it right before Christmas?  I assure her that the next couple of weeks we really have nothing to do, when in fact both of us are quite maxed out.

That afternoon we have “leftovers” again for lunch.  I ask Morgan if she wants to invite anyone over to share, but she say no, she wants to just be with me, and Daddy, if he has time.  I call Steve, but he is at his shop and has deadlines that need to get finished and he is afraid he will even be working late to get it all done.  His brother has lent him a worker, and he is doing his best, wishes he could be with us, but says to go ahead without him.

Her sister sends her a heart on a text.  Morgan talks to her friends on her cell phone who remind her that a good friend is going to be playing at the Carbondale guitar shop tonight and they want her to be there.  She says maybe to them and wants to know from me when Steve will be home.  I call Steve and he tells me he will leave now, that family has to come before what he is doing.  He will just get up earlier for work and all will be fine.

I tell Morgan he is leaving right now to come home and she is happy.  She wants to spend some time with us and then go see her friend play, to support her.  I agree with her and we busy ourselves in the kitchen, working away and sort of making up for Thanksgiving in a restaurant by having the leftovers at home together.  She was growing into such a sweet young woman, worried about helping those all around her, and I was so proud of her at that moment.

Morgan sends her friend Calder a message at 7:44 pm, “Hey what are you up to?” Calder writes back, “If you’re with Nate tell him we should chill tomorrow.”  Morgan responds, “I’m at home having dinner.  I’ll let him know.  What are your plans tonight?”  Calder says, “Looking for something to do.”  Morgan says, “Well are you still free?  JJ is playing at Steve’s Guitars.”

Morgan leaves after Steve and I have a dinner with her.  The night is stalker free, as far as we know, and Morgan comes home early from her friend’s performance at the guitar store.  She is calm, and I am happy deep down inside that the move in the works is the right thing to do.

Steve and I go to sleep, confident that we have made the right choice, and we will soon put all this nonsense of stalkers, and noises in the night behind us.  We were always having wishful thinking that this stalker will find another obsession and go away.

But you all know how wrong we were…

Click here to read about the 117th day of Morgan’s stalking https://morgansstalking.com/?p=2372

Milestones along the journey

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As the frantic pace from last week slows to a far more manageable speed, I want to thank all of you so much for for your help, your kind words, your encouragement, and of course your support for Morgan.  She was the victim, and Steve and I have always said that if just one other young woman is saved, this will all be worth it.  And we cherish very dearly the successes this effort has already had.

I did say milestone in the title and one they tell me one that will be reached today is 3 million views!, in 111 countries.  I asked exactly what a “view” is and it was explained like this.  If one of you comes on the Blog and reads a post and then clicks on a link that takes you to another post, or a page of stalking advice. That would be 2 views, made sense to me, so it is not 3 million individual people, just 3 million views.  A very overwhelming number to me and one that I would never have dreamed of when I started this blog about Morgan’s Stalking.  I think it just underscores what a real nightmare stalking and bullying is for us all, all across the globe.

Also our local radio station in the valley KDNK will air a 3 part series starting on Monday 11/12 at 6:50 am and 7:50 am, about Morgan Ingram’s Stalking and what they have learned in their research of her stalking.  If you miss a broadcast it will also be available on their website. http://www.kdnk.org/ (The 3-part series can now be heard on https://soundcloud.com/user-744545581/kdnk-series)

I haven’t had a chance to preview any of it but they really dug into the subject and Steve and I are so grateful for the exposure of this very important subject.

Thank you all and I look forward to meaningful improvement to the current awareness of how dangerous stalking can be and how inadequate our current protocol is when dealing with stalking and bullying.

 

 

November 24, 2011 – Day 115 of Morgan’s Stalking – Thanksgivings, Past, Present and Future

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At 4:23 am the Master Bedroom motion alarm went off and I went to the monitor to see if anything was going on outside.  As I replayed it I saw lights shining, lighting up the side of our neighbor Ken’s house.  I went to the window and looked out, but it was dark now.  Then I saw a flash, not a flashlight, maybe a cell phone.

I stepped as quickly and quietly as I could to the bedroom and woke Steve up.  I told him that someone was outside our room, right now!  Steve got dressed, went to the window, and peered out.  He stood staring and motioned for me to go to the monitor and see it anything was on the cameras.

There was a shape right between the houses, probably a man.  Steve had come alongside me and whispered he was going out the back door and either catch him of flush him out the front.  He wanted me to go to the front door and if he came by I could run out and see which way he went – except I was wearing a robe.

We were amazingly calm as we set up the sting.  After all these months it seemed all too easy.  Steve had that look in his eyes, nothing was going to stop him.  The shape started moving and his flashlight was on again, completely obvious this time.  Then he turned and the letters SHERIFF in luminescent fabric were clearly seen on his back. Then he was on his phone again and Steve slapped the bat he was holding into his palm and cursed under his breath.  Is he on a stakeout?  Steve wondered.

Just as he said that he walked out to the front yard and we heard his truck start up.  After a while he circled the block twice in his truck slowing down as he was near Morgan’s window.  I called dispatch later and they told me our neighbor’s house had been broken into.  Steve tried to call him to find out what had happened, but could not reach him and just left a message.

Morgan’s sister texted her at 10:32 am, “I’m awake! U?” and Morgan did not answer.  At 2:09 pm her sister texted again, “Did u wanna skype still???”.  Morgan answered her with, “We’re on our way to lunch. I’ll text you after?”  Her sister said, “Have a good lunch!!! Text me when you get back and we will all Skype it” with a bunch of happy faces then “We have never had a Thanksgiving Skype.” With two hearts, and Morgan sent her a heart back.

We all drove into Aspen and had our Thanksgiving at the Maroon Creek Club, which was a very rare experience for us.  Normally it was the whole family, and at least a few more people.  We even tried to always invite someone we had just met to share our dinner with them.  It was always festive at our home, but this was by far more quiet and mellow.  Each of the chefs there made their favorite Thanksgiving dish, and the food was outstanding.  Morgan was all smiles and had a great time talking about Thanksgivings to come, and how some day we would all be at her house, and how different that was going to be for us.  It triggered a memory in me, because when we were were on vacation with Morgan in July we were able to go to my best friend’s house for dinner.  Morgan was enthralled with the glass antique spoon holders my friend had, and said she would love those in her house one day, so I secretly wrote a note to myself since Morgan had been putting together things that she would love to have when she moved into her own home.

She was really starting to look forward to the Yoga certification classes she would be starting soon.  She wanted the both of us to be her first “pupils”, and we agreed.  She loved the tea and the desserts, I think she had at least one piece of each dessert.

Steve took the opportunity, on the drive home, to tell Morgan we had been looking at places to move to, and had found a few that would work. One in particular that we wanted her to see.  Quite matter of factly she asked what we were going to do if he, or the stalker(s) followed us.  Steve was quick to explain that this place had been picked with defense in mind, and the lowest window was twenty feet from the ground.  How it would be so much better for the cameras and there would not be blind spots as we had now.  There were some details to be worked out, but he thought it was going to be much safer for her and far more challenging for him to do anything like what he was doing now.

Morgan was quite cheered up by all this, and then reminded us it would not be so long before she was off to school at CU Boulder anyway, time enough for her Yoga certification program and then just a few months before she would be leaving…

Click here to read about the 116th day of Morgan’s stalking https://morgansstalking.com/?p=2273