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Bullies And Stalkers…
Bullying is the use of force, threat, or coercion to abuse, intimidate, or aggressively dominate others. The behavior is often repeated and habitual. One essential prerequisite is the perception, by the bully or by others, of an imbalance of social or physical power, which distinguishes bullying from conflict.
Sounds to me like a person that is a bully can easily make the transition to becoming a stalker.
Below is a link to a resource that brings the dangers of bullying to the public’s attention. This is a good resource for your community. I’ve included a link to their bullying awareness and prevention guide:
http://www.learnpsychology.org/now/bullying/
Educating ourselves about these things really does help, not only in expanding our awareness, but gives us good lessons in our ever-evolving pursuit to keep our children safe in this society.
In Tribute to Morgan on her 25th Birthday…
So many beautiful and wonderful pictures, and comments, have come through this morning…As I watch my candle burning, my aching heart has been surrounded with all of this amazing love and intention. And to her killer that wrote in to me, I say to you – so you thought you had put out Morgan’s light forever…nope, not even close. You lose (and what was it you said? Oh right, “Bam!” Don’t think so – you are wrong, Morgan did not “deserve” to die and “everyone” is not happier that she is dead. That is all in your delusional mind so you can try and justify the sick person you are. Morgan is more powerful and shines just as bright, and maybe even brighter today. Her light will always make it harder for the darkness to enter…Always!
Dennis Crowley posted this picture of Morgan and said, “Happy 25th Birthday Morgan Jennifer Ingram!” 
JP wrote: I’VE RECENTLY GOTTEN TO KNOW Toni Ingram THE MOTHER OF MORGAN INGRAM WHO WAS VIOLENTLY KILLED IN WESTERN COLORADO – SHE HAS BECOME AN ACTIVIST FOR FAMILIES OF VICTIMS – Morgan’s mother says her daughter was stalked before her senseless murder in Western Colorado in 2011 (she would have been 25 August 26) and that police haven’t done enough. You can tell from this picture that Morgan was such a wholesome, beautiful young lady. This poster was done by Dennis Crowley of Wheels of Hope for the Missing who’s become another friend – there’s a growing network of those concerned about the missing and those killed by mysterious circumstances and Dennis is making it his mission to reach out to families so we can help resolve some missing persons cases and comfort the families. There’s talk of us all brainstorming some state-wide cutting edge legislation for accountability. You can read more about Morgan’s story at: https://www.facebook.com/morgansstalking/ and www.MorgansStalking.com
I also awoke to some adorable pictures of two of Morgan’s little cousins – they woke up this morning and went about making these two signs for Morgan’s birthday and showing red roses for her as well…children are such pure LOVE! I know Morgan was smiling 🙂 
Then I received a message from a young woman that had been a victim of stalking herself. She has been writing in to me over the years. She wrote, “I wasn’t sure where to send the photo of the candles I lit in honor of Morgan, so I figured sending them to your inbox would be a good idea. I can’t explain why, but I feel very.. drawn to her for lack of a better word. I’ll catch myself thinking of her and all of you and feel the most inexplainable mixture of happiness and sorrow. I know I never knew her, but from what you’ve said she sounds like one of the most caring people that this world could have had. A dragonfly came into my house the other day, something not common to see in my area, and about a week before that one was lingering by me and my family while we were in line for the county fair. I think of her whenever I see one and hope that justice will be granted for her and everyone who was harmed by the evil that took it upon themselves to take her from this world. They might have been able to take her from you physically, but they will never take her spirit. That is something that she will always have and I know in my heart she’s watching over all of you every single day. Her light will never go out as long as her story continues to be told. I hope this day is filled with loving memories and that the happiness of those memories outweighs the sorrow of her absence. To whomever is reading this and everyone who was lucky enough to call Morgan family or a friend, please have an amazing day.”
And more messages still coming in:
Happy Birthday Morgan you live on through the courage of your mother to reach out and fight for you and other mothers uniting in sadness for justice you touched many of us and kept us fighting and strong and the love that comes through to us I hope you feel shine up on you each time your Mom connects to us through her site and helps and shares our pain and tears you will be forever in our hearts <3 MB
Happy birthday Morgan… We love u.. And we’re fighting for you … Even people you’ve never met love you and are fighting… I think it’s safe to say you left some special kind of impact on the world that still spins without you on it. Pretty big stuff girl. Xo KK
I lit my candle for Morgan this morning and wished her a Happy Birthday in Heaven. PP
And the following comment is from the sister of Holly Moore – another young woman in Colorado that was recently killed and written off as a suicide, even though 2 amazing medical examiners did a physical autopsy on her body and determined she was murdered. This case is now being investigated by the Colorado Bureau of Investigation. I am hoping they will be able to determine it was a staged murder. Her sister wrote: “Beautiful happy birthday Morgan! Hope Holly is helping you celebrate in heaven!” AM
This comment is from the mother of another girl in Colorado (only 1 year older than Morgan when she was murdered). Her daughter’s case has an amazing amount of evidence against her killer and yet the police chief has stalled her case since day one – she experiences the same pain and anguish as I do, but in her case it is exasperated by the fact that she doesn’t even know where her daughter’s body is! She said, “I’ll be lighting my candle. My heart hurts for you Toni. These days are even harder than the “normal” days. Sending love and hugs. Xo” LS
I’ll light my candle. Sending Hugs!!♡♡♡ BEA
Here is a picture of Morgan with her special little niece Joni that Morgan’s brother Ryan sent to Joni this morning 
Morgan’s little niece wrote today, “A magical girl has a birthday today and it’s Morgan she’s the best aunt + she is turning 25 years old. She is up in Heaven and I wish that she is having a great birthday. And that she is happy😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅
Happy Birthday Morgan – our little angel in heaven. We miss you so very much and love you so very much! This is a picture of Morgan putting her own candles on her very last birthday cake.
Morgan we all love & miss you!
For Your Birthday In Heaven…
We all love you Morgan. Happy birthday dear angel. Many tears are flowing freely today, along with many candles burning brightly, with the most wonderful intentions being sent. I wish I could see your beautiful face right now, but I know it would be difficult with all the tears filling up my eyes and clouding my vision.
I can still hear your voice in the wind, and the soft rustle of your feet as the delicate rain hits the ground. I remember the feel of your beautiful long hair as I do a french braid in your little niece’s hair. I remember how much you used to enjoy it when I brushed out your hair and put in a french braid before you went to bed, and I still remember laughing at ourselves in the mirror when we gave each other facials at night. It was all so much fun, and I miss it so much, but I am so very grateful that we had so much fun together…I wouldn’t trade it for the world! I love you my little dragonfly.
A visit from a red dragonfly – what an amazing sign..
I think of Morgan every single moment of every single day. She is never far from my thoughts. I see her sweet smile every time I look at my phone. I remember all the dragonfly things she had around her bedroom every time I see a dragonfly circle around me. I also feel a stab in my heart every time I here a song that reminds me of her.
Whether a memory makes me happy or sad I am continuously grateful that everything reminds me of her. I would never want her memory to fade from my mind. She will always be in my heart, and always very loved. Morgan deserves the truth to come out, Morgan deserves justice for the crimes that were inflicted upon her, and in my heart I truly believe she will receive justice…especially when I receive positive and encouraging signs.
Yesterday I had a magical visit from a little red dragonfly. Now, having a visit from a dragonfly is not that unusual for me, I have had many visits from dragonflies since Morgan died, but this one was very different. I have never seen a red dragonfly before. This dragonfly acted different, it hovered right in front of my face as though it was looking right into my eyes, then it would circle and come right back to hover again right in front of me. It almost seemed as though it was trying to communicate with me. I smiled feeling like this definitely was a sign from Morgan. For the next 10 minutes or so I was transfixed – it continued to do some very amazing things. I loved this special gift, and I am very grateful for the visit.
I was speaking to a friend about this last night and she sent me the following information that she had found somewhere on the Internet. Dragonflies are said to show the presence of loved ones. The Japanese believe they represent good things, they embrace the dragonfly as a symbol of courage, strength and happiness, while the Native Americans speak of the dragonfly as bringing a time of rejuvenation after a long period of trials and hardship. Both of these interpretations bring us hope after the death and loss of a loved one. Further, the Native Americans perceived dragonflies as the “souls of the dead” so a dragonfly visitation around a loved one’s death could well signify the loved one’s soul taking form in the spirit of dragonfly.
I just felt like this special red dragonfly was a sign from Morgan. A sign that good things were about to happen after such a long wait. And if just like magic today ended up being a very important day for Morgan’s case. I felt like I have been climbing up and up forever and the top of the mountain was still so far away but today I felt as though I finally reached the top of a mountain. I know it sounds a little strange but maybe this is all happening right now for a reason. Maybe because it’s August and almost Morgan’s birthday, or maybe just because it is the right time. Since Morgan is no longer here with us we can not celebrate with cake and candles, but I think the things that are now being put into play will be an important and wonderful way to celebrate her birthday.
Morgan was a Leo…she was born on August 16th. And she had all the typical characteristics of a Leo. She was the ultimate friend. And her friends meant the world to her. Morgan had all the strengths of a Leo, she was confident, ambitious, generous, loyal and encouraging to all around her. She gave of herself many, many times as she would put off her own social life in order to do volunteer work for those much less fortunate. She enjoyed helping others.
On the downside of being a Leo Morgan was always too proud to ask for help…she would suffer in silence many times. When it came to her stalking I know now that it would have been so much better for her to ask and accept help from her friends. Some of her friends did step up and try to help, but Morgan would not ask for help. Please know if you are a victim of stalking please ask for help – you need help from everyone around you. It may be the only way to stop your stalker and keep yourself safe.
Morgan had boundless enthusiasm, and a real zest for life. She appreciated all the wonders around her. Morgan was fearless and strong, but she still lost her life to her stalker(s). The taking of her life will not end now that she is gone, her legacy will live on. We will honor her always by being fearless and strong and never giving up our quest for justice, for her as well as all others that suffer at the hands of their stalkers. Morgan will be remembered, and she will still be able to make a difference in this world…through all of us. She still resides inside so many hearts.
On this coming Sunday, the day that would have been Morgan’s 24th birthday, I will celebrate her birthday by burning a candle for her again. I still have all the thousands of pictures readers sent to me during the first candlelight vigil that we held for Morgan on December 2, 2012 – that was the date that marked the first year anniversary of her murder. It’s so very hard to believe that it was so long ago.
If you have a chance please join me in celebrating Morgan by burning a candle for her again this Sunday. If you would like to send me a picture of your candle to post for others to see please send it to me through this website on the contact form.
Thank you all for the many years of support you have given to me and my family…we couldn’t keep up the fight for justice without you. Much light and love to you all!