January is the National Stalking Awareness Month

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January 2020 marks the sixteenth annual National Stalking Awareness Month (NSAM), an annual call to action to recognize and respond to the serious crime of stalking.

Since 2004, each January is recognizedby the National Center for Victims of Crime as the National Stalking Awareness Month (NSAM), aiming to raise awareness and help individuals and communities across the US identify, prevent and stop this dangerous behavior. Intrusive and harmful, stalking destroys a person’s sense of safety, leaving victims suffering from severe depression, insomnia or anxiety.

Movements like #MeToo and Time’s Up were a great step ahead towards opening up about sexual harassment, rape threats and abuse, in a time when cyberspace abusers use tactics like sextortion, revenge porn and online harassment, or newly-added offenses like swatting (calling a SWAT team to someone’s home) or doxing / doxxing (releasing someone’s private information publicly, with malicious intent).

Click here to learn more about what to do if you are being stalked https://www.stalkingawareness.org/what-to-do-if-you-are-being-stalked/

* WISHING YOU ALL A HAPPY NEW YEAR IN 2020 *

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As our family gets ready to welcome the new year, our intentions are focused on getting an investigation opened into our youngest daughter Morgan’s murder. This is a goal we will never stop working towards.

We “believe” the things we have been waiting for to happen in Morgan’s case will happen in 2020 – so as we enter the new year, we believe with all our hearts, that Morgan and our family will find justice. We will never cease to stop believing that there can be justice in this world – to fail only means we stopped trying…we will NEVER stop trying. #JusticeForMorgan

There are many wonderful warriors in this world, those that are not willing to stand by and ignore injustice – these warriors are not always out in the limelight, but work hard, behind the scenes, to right many wrongs…these are our heroes, and our family thanks them for all their help! 

“Take a leap of faith and begin this wondrous new year by believing. Believe in yourself. And believe that there is a loving Source – a Sower of Dreams – just waiting to be asked to help you make your dreams come true.”   Sarah Ban Breathnach

Another Christmas Memory of Morgan…

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Morgan loved Buzz Lightyear…this year we gave Buzz to our grandchildren. We miss Morgan so much…we can still feel her presence and wish so much that she was still here with us as our family makes new memories. #Morganisneverforgotten #JusticeforMorgan #LoveLastsForever

Holidays 2019 – Some Ideas For Those Dealing with Trauma…

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First, I would like to send a huge thank you to all those who emailed me and posted comments to this blog this past year – your support has been invaluable to me. It’s hard for some people to understand that they can not “fix” a parent who has lost a child…but just being there, not forgetting their child’s name, and just being supportive, is one of the greatest gifts you can give to a grieving parent.

And, I would also like to express my apology for my lack of posting for some time now…time doesn’t get any easier, and Steve and I have been having an extremely emotional time with the holidays. I know that after a trauma, it’s normal for people to experience flashbacks (I have had many of those), anxiety (that goes without saying), hyper-vigilance (constantly), and grief (never ending).

Sadly, so many people experience trauma in their lives, and with that trauma they start to experience PTSD. According to mental health professionals, post-traumatic stress disorder (or PTSD) is a condition that results in a series of emotional and physical reactions in individuals who have either witnessed or experienced a traumatic event. Stalking is a traumatic experience, as well as losing someone you love. An unknown author said, “Grief is like a earthquake. The first one hits you and the world falls apart. Even after you put the world together again there are aftershocks, and you never really know when those will come.”

Being able to speak with a grief counselor over the years has been a huge help for Steve and I, but this type of trauma is not something that you ever get over…you don’t wake up one day and the pain is gone…no, the pain continues, so we have needed to learn how to deal with that pain.

I would like to share with you some grounding techniques that we have been given – techniques to can help control the symptoms experienced after a trauma. Again, not everyone’s trauma is the same, but many of the symptoms of trauma are.

Body Awareness: The body awareness technique with bring you into the here-and-now by directing your focus to sensations in the body. Pay special attention to the physical sensations created by each step.

  1. Take 5 long, deep breaths through your nose, and exhale through puckered lips.
  2. Place both feet flat on the floor. Wiggle your toes. Curl and uncurl your toes several times. Spend a moment noticing the sensations in your feet.
  3. Stomp your feet on the ground several times. Pay attention to the sensations in your feet and legs as you make contact with the ground.
  4. Clench your hands into fists, then release the tension. Repeat this 10 times.
  5. Press your palms together. Press them harder and hold this pose for 15 seconds. Pay attention to the feeling of tension in your hands and arms.
  6. Rub your palms together briskly. Notice the sound and feeling of warmth.
  7. Reach your hands over your head like you’re trying to reach the sky. Stretch like this for 5 seconds. Bring your arms down and let them relax at your sides.
  8. Take 5 more deep breaths and notice the feeling of calm in your body.

I hope this helps a little – I will try to post some more ideas soon.

How Do You Confront Evil?

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When someone has done something evil to you or someone you love – how would you confront that evil?

Stalkers are evil. So, what actually is evil? Evil is a conscious choice to harm another. Stalkers harm their victims, causing them to suffer a wide range of psychological, physical, occupational, social and general lifestyle effects, as a consequence of being stalked. Stalkers are in the business of terror. Lives are destroyed by this crime – that is why stalking is a crime.

When people deny the reality of stalking that perception helps evil exist – it makes it so much easier for stalkers to continue their reign of terror. This is not okay! Stalkers don’t believe the laws pertain to them…they are puppets of darkness.

I still have the courage to confront the evil of stalking, although at times it is hard, I refuse to back away. I don’t confront the evil of stalking through my anger & rage (although I have those feelings because of what was done to my youngest child), but instead I have chosen to make a higher choice and confront this evil through my writing, and speaking engagements, as well as through my work with other victims of stalking, and upcoming stalking awareness workshops. Someone needs to do something, and there is a lot to do in order to raise awareness, change laws, and level the playing field for victims – we all need to be accountable and do something about these acts of evil. You will be challenged, I have been, but you can’t give into evil – that’s what evil wants – it wants good people to stand back and do nothing. Evaluate your own actions every day – serve someone else every day and illuminate positivity in everything you do.

I don’t believe we can ever completely eliminate evil, but I do believe each and every one of us has the power to stop it when we see it. Help raise awareness, believe the victims, push for stronger laws against stalkers, speak up – your voice is your most powerful tool against the darkness of evil. Thank you all for being warriors for truth & transparency!