Sunday, August 14, 2011 – The 13th Day of Morgan’s Stalking

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We did a power wash outside of our house to make sure the dirt under the windows would catch more footprints, the sheriff’s deputies had suggested we try this.  Someone even suggested to me that putting fresh soil around the whole house, directly under the windows, would yield even better shoe prints, but at this point, even though we are utilizing some of these suggestions, we feel that with all the motion detector lights, and motion alarms that we have been putting up, that the stalker should not be able to stand right up against our house and peer in the windows. And for some reason this gives us a measure of comfort…it should not have, because in these first beginning days of Morgan’s stalking, none of us really knew how bad it would get.  We didn’t know that everything we used to keep him/her (the stalker) out, just made it more of a challenge for him.  We didn’t realize that the more often the sheriffs had a presence here, the more excited it made him.  This was becoming a bigger and bigger challenge for him.  Morgan is still sleeping on the closet floor, and thankfully was not startled awake in her sleep tonight…we were all very happy.

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Today August 14, 2012 my thoughts and feelings about stalking are so much more evolved than from a year ago. It seems simple to me that law enforcement should be able to differentiate between the different “typology” of stalkers, if they had had that training it would have made all the difference in the world.  Morgan’s stalker was never seen (but that is typical about most stalkers, especially in the beginning – they stalk and they surveil in the shadows), Morgan’s stalker seemed to “get off” on the sheriffs showing up at our house. What if they had been able to employ different degrees of urgency in catching a stalker, one that could become more lethal, and better warn the victims?  The stalkers who progress to become serial killers or murderers – shouldn’t law enforcement have a type of profile to make this determination? The next serial killer could be lurking outside your window. It’s the first thing we tell people now when they ask us for advice – to look up the “typology.” Criminals are constantly improving their protection under the law, while as for the victims, it has stayed the same – almost no rights. Remember that we are supposed to be guaranteed the most basic rights of life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness. Morgan and the rest of us had very little of that during the time of her stalking. Yet even if the stalker had been caught in the beginning, the worst he would have faced was misdemeanor trespassing, right up there with jay walking, as one officer compared it to. Not much of a deterrent is it? The sheriff’s patrol officers really wanted to catch the stalker, but because of the protocol they employed of “catch him in the act”, they never stood a chance, and neither did we.  As long as he could outrun, or hide from everyone, and not get collared near the house, what would happen to him? Nothing. This was, as Mike Proctor puts it,  “tombstone mentality” and Morgan paid the price for that mentality with her life. The stalker had more basic rights then we did, Morgan, and even our family were scrutinized far more closely then the stalker ever was – remember how the system used to allow the rape victim to be psychologically raped all over again when she reported the rape, and then again when the case finally went to trial?  Here we go again, maybe that is why stalking is the most under reported crime at this time.  The Constitution was written to establish justice, ensure domestic tranquility, provide for the common defense, and promote the general welfare – none of this existed for Morgan once she had a stalker.  After a effort by the Garfield County Sheriff’s office to try to catch the stalker, using a protocol that doesn’t work, (how many times have they actually caught a stalker in this county without the stalker just confessing?), the coroner’s office never ordered an investigation to find out why or how our daughter died, and then the felony stalking investigation was officially closed 5 month after her murder.  This approach will not protect you, you are not safe.  If it’s our government’s job to ensure its people these rights, then they failed miserably.  Not only for ourselves, but for our community, as we believe this stalker has done this before, and will do it again.  I have received emails from other women that live in the neighbor right across from us that tell of similar incidents, incidents that were reported to the Garfield Sheriffs, one only 2 weeks before Morgan’s stalking started, one that even had a sheriff’s canine track the suspect, before losing him down the county road.  We had the first 2 patrol officers tell us about approximately 7 incidents similar to Morgan’s that happened in that subdivision the previous summer before Morgan’s.

What would you do if your daughter, husband and yourself were being stalked and your child was murdered, but law enforcement didn’t care to investigate?

We are so very blessed, and thankful that we have so many hundreds, and now almost thousands of people that want to help.  Now we need our county to step up and admit, like all of us have done at one time or another, that mistakes were made, that they will now fix them and go after the person or persons responsible for our daughter’s death.  We want to do this out of love.  Love for other children, daughters, sisters, young women, and anyone that may be in danger right now, or in the future, from a sick obsessed stalker that is still out there and will most likely to do it again, and again.  To us – this is not acceptable, and things have to change.

The Sociopath Next Door – by Martha Stout

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This is a must read book.  When I was doing jury duty a few weeks ago I met a wonderful woman…this woman suggested I read this book, and then one week later lent the audio book to me.  After reading this book I completely believe Morgan’s stalker was definitely a sociopath, and can not be changed.  He will never have feelings like normal people have, and I believe he will go on to do this again, and again.  There is no cure for sociopathy.  This type of stalker fits right in to society, we don’t really see him do we?

Martha Stout writes: We are accustomed to think of sociopaths as violent criminals, but in The Sociopath Next Door, Harvard psychologist Martha Stout reveals that a shocking 4 percent of ordinary people—one in twenty-five—has an often undetected mental disorder, the chief symptom of which is that that person possesses no conscience. He or she has no ability whatsoever to feel shame, guilt, or remorse. One in twenty-five everyday Americans, therefore, is secretly a sociopath. They could be your colleague, your neighbor, even family. And they can do literally anything at all and feel absolutely no guilt.

How do we recognize the remorseless? One of their chief characteristics is a kind of glow or charisma that makes sociopaths more charming or interesting than the other people around them. They’re more spontaneous, more intense, more complex, or even sexier than everyone else, making them tricky to identify and leaving us easily seduced. Fundamentally, sociopaths are different because they cannot love. Sociopaths learn early on to show sham emotion, but underneath they are indifferent to others’ suffering. They live to dominate and thrill to win.

The fact is, we all almost certainly know at least one or more sociopaths already. Part of the urgency in reading The Sociopath Next Door is the moment when we suddenly recognize that someone we know—someone we worked for, or were involved with, or voted for—is a sociopath. But what do we do with that knowledge? To arm us against the sociopath, Dr. Stout teaches us to question authority, suspect flattery, and beware the pity play. Above all, she writes, when a sociopath is beckoning, do not join the game.

It is the ruthless versus the rest of us, and The Sociopath Next Door will show you how to recognize and defeat the devil you know.

Saturday, August 13, 2011 – the 12th day of Morgan’s stalking

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Morgan’s dad puts motion lights up all around the house.  He leaves to go up to the hardware store and right after he drove away, a person named Matt (that I have never seen in our neighborhood before) shows up at our front door, and asks to borrow an extension cord.  My suspicions about anyone or everyone in this neighborhood is now in full swing.  The officers that have come over to the house to investigate believe the stalker is someone in our neighborhood, or very close by.  The officers have asked us to keep it to ourselves for a little while, so they will have some time to investigate and close in on a suspect.  They believe this because no one can figure out how that stalker could be tapping or banging on windows within 10 – 15 minutes of Morgan arriving home, even when she switches cars. I think this person showing up on my doorstep is strange, so I get Matt to write down his phone number, so Steve can call him when he returns home.  I am just suspicious, because this person tells me he just moved in. And now this person shows up at our front door, right after it was obvious Steve is installing more motion lights around the house, and in one case had to use an extension cord. This Matt person said he had moved in on the corner recently, and is renting a room.  He seems to be the same height as the person in the picture, but his build is much larger.

Later on, Elliott (our neighbor across the street) tells me the name of the roommate that moved into that house, at the beginning of August.  The name Elliott shared with me was Eric, so Elliott states this Matt person is presumably the older brother of the other male living in that house. I don’t think this is the person we are looking for.  So we scratch him off the list.

Steve and I are keeping track in a book and on a calendar when we see cars in driveways right after an incident.  We want to see who is always there or who is not there when an incident occurs.

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