The Missing Frog Prince…from a Valentine’s Day long ago

Posted on by

 HERE IS A PICTURE OF THE LITTLE FROG PRINCE KEYCHAIN I BOUGHT FROM RED ENVELOPE IN 2009.  IT WAS A VALENTINE’S PRESENT FOR MORGAN – IT IS STILL MISSING, AND HAS NEVER BEEN FOUND!

Today on Valentine’s Day, as I closed my eyes to remember Morgan, another memory “appeared” in my mind.  This happens to me quite often.  They are always important pieces to the puzzle that have to do with Morgan’s case. On the morning of December 2, 2011, when so many things were happening, it was just too much to process.  We had just found our youngest daughter, dead in her bed.  We were in shock.  We were in pain.  And yet we did hear what was being said, and we did retain it.

I have mentioned to other parents, of recently murdered children, that for me it was like hundreds of little puzzle pieces constantly swirling above my head, and all you want is for them to fall into place, in order to show a “complete” picture of what happened to my child.  Then I see these parents open their eyes wide, as if surprised and happy that someone expressed what they themselves have been feeling.  What I usually hear them say, is “Yes, that is exactly it!”

So when the memory of this little keychain “appeared” in my mind I immediately knew why.  The morning of Morgan’s murder, when her felony stalking detective, Garfield County Sheriff Rob Glassmire, asked me if Morgan was missing a keychain, i looked at the rack where we all hung our keys, and said no. The keychain Morgan used to drive the car (my keychain), the one with the front door key on it to the new lock we had put on our front door, was hanging on the rack.  But what I hadn’t remembered that morning was that Morgan did have her own keychain, the one with this little frog prince on it.  I didn’t remember because Morgan had not used it since a couple of weeks after the stalking had started.

Why hadn’t she used her keychain?  Because her car had almost 300,000 miles on it at the time, and was having some mechanical problems.  So when we realized she had a stalker(s) I told her I would prefer she just drive my car, as a safety precaution.  Then when our front door lock started to break, and Steve replaced it, my keychain only had the new front door key on it – the old key was no longer on my keychain.

And why does it matter if her keychain was never found after her murder?  Because it not only had her car key on it, but it also had the old front door key on it.  And that matters because that key also opened the door into the house from the garage, and possibly unlocked the french door from the back patio into the master bedroom – but I never thought of that at the time.  Then after we had gone through all of Morgan’s things and packed them up to move, I realized her keychain was no where to be found.  We looked everywhere, but never found it.  We reported this to the detective, but like so many other details in her case he had no interest in the missing keychain.  Someone knows where this keychain is and could lead us to even more answers.

If you live in Colorado, and if you ever remember seeing someone that may be connected with Morgan’s case, with this same keychain, please contact Northern Colorado Crimes Stoppers.  The process is completely secure and anonymous.  Tips can be sent via telephone, text or email at 800-222-TIPS or 800-222-8477 or via the web at https://www.tipsubmit.com/webtips.aspx?AgencyID=361&DSID=361 or by text or SMS, Text “NOCO (plus your message)” to 274637. Upon reception of your first incoming message, the system will auto-reply with a confirmation containing your unique Tip ID., To submit follow-up information, you simply reply.  Nothing else is needed.  All follow-up tips, and even your replies from the application, are written under the original record.  They are shown threaded and date/time stamped in the narrative.  The thread may be terminated by the text STOP at any time.  You can also manually select the “Terminate Thread” button from within the application.

All calls are anonymous and all communications are encoded and encrypted.

There is a reward available for any tips that lead to an arrest in Morgan’s case – thank you!

 

 

A Stalking Taken Seriously – Aspen, CO

Posted on by

Here is a news report about a stalking out of Aspen, CO – this stalker was apprehended and sentenced.  I applaud the Aspen police for their swift and efficient protocol in this case.  Stalking should always be taken seriously, and serious consequences should be imposed.

Aspen, CO is where Morgan went to school, before attending college.  Aspen is at one end of the Roaring Fork Valley.  We lived in the Roaring Fork Valley when Morgan was killed, but it was in a different county – there are 3 different counties in just a short distance from each other.  From one end of that valley to the other, there are also 9 separate law enforcement agencies, and none of them shared information about suspects or cases. For so many years it seemed like such a small valley to us, with only one degree of separation. It gave you a sense of community.  Little did we know back then, if crimes are not exposed and shared between agencies, and citizens are not informed, then they can not protect their families or neighbors from dangers lurking in their community.  Knowledge is extremely important, which is why community policing is an extremely important concept.

Wouldn’t this be nice if all stalking cases would be taken seriously, and handled rapidly, for better outcomes like this one was?  If they were I believe we would have so many less lives destroyed.  We need all law enforcement agencies to adopt a National Protocol on Stalking.  https://victimsofcrime.org/docs/src/creating-an-effective-stalking-protocol.pdf?sfvrsn=2 

Man who stalked girls in Aspen sentenced

 

And she said, “I love you daddy.”

Posted on by

 Ask any adult woman about their father, one who still calls their father “daddy,” and you will hear stories of immense love and respect. I have been blessed to be married to one such “daddy” – Steve.  Both Morgan and her oldest sister always called him “daddy,” and they absolutely adored him.

Blood doesn’t always make you a “daddy.”  Another person has always called Steve “daddy.”  My niece never knew her own father, so ever since she was a small child, Steve treated her just like one of our own daughters.  She loved him very much.  And just like our own 2 girls, she made him father’s day cards, always got excited to see him and never got off the phone without saying she loved him.  And to this very day my niece still ALWAYS calls Steve “daddy.”  Even as a mother herself, and almost 40 years old, to her Steve is “daddy.”

I have met many friends over the years that still call their fathers “daddy.”  What a beautiful thing – I love hearing them talk about their childhoods and all the wonderful memories they have.  It really does take someone special to be a daddy.  A person that really loves spending time with their children.  Someone that is always there for them, someone they can count on.  Someone who knows there is no greater gift in this world then a child…that makes a “daddy.”  One of my dear friends just lost her “daddy” to cancer – it was painful and cruel.  She is hurting so much and yet every time she speaks about him she smiles (with tears in her eyes) and you can hear the love in her voice for the man she will always call “daddy.”

You are probably wondering why in the world I am going on and on about this.  Well because I just remembered something that happened about a year after Morgan was killed.  A woman contacted me to say that she was convinced Morgan killed herself because she had read that the last thing Morgan said to Steve was, “I love you daddy.”  Now I have heard a lot of crazy things from people over the years – but when I heard this woman say that, I felt a wave of sadness for her…what kind of childhood had this woman had that would make her think that?  It was just all too sad.

For Morgan to say, “I love you daddy” was completely normal behavior for Morgan.  I know for many other girls and women this would be normal behavior as well, and for those who can not understand it, I feel a deep sadness.  Unconditional love comes from the heart, it’s what every child deserves, but not every child receives.  What a wonderful world this would be if everyone could know, and understand, unconditional love.

 

Here we go again…

Posted on by

HAS ANYONE LOST THEIR INTERNET TROLL?

Guess he or she didn’t want to wait long.  The same person I wrote about in my last post about a “troll,” wrote in again tonight.  They wrote the following:

Comment: January 30th, 2013 you posted this “We have no choice but to forge on, and as her room is almost finished so I tackle what is left. Her bed is first, blankets, sheets, pillows, pillowcases. That none of this was ever collected has been universally frowned upon since her death. ” Now you’ve changed your own history to say her bottom sheet was missing. WTF, Toni, the truth DOESN’T change. Why does your story keep changing? Poor Morgan!

You are right when you say, “Poor Morgan” – she would have had justice by now if people like you would stop trying to make a big deal out of things that don’t exist, and feeding right in to the hands of the people that are trying (for their life) to keep her case from ever becoming a case…Morgan WAS a felony stalking victim, Steve and I WERE also listed as victims, as we had incidents against us when she wasn’t even home.  And Morgan WAS murdered.  Morgan was an eye-witness as to who her stalker(s) were and the sheriffs knew.  So her stalker(s) eliminated the witness!  And we have evidence that shows she was murdered.  So give me a break “troll” you are not only misinformed you are illiterate as well. When you read things – you should really read them.  Also, if you have questions, just ask.  It’s not that hard.

What the “troll” is referring to is the following link to my blog post: https://morgansstalking.com/wp-admin/post.php?post=2791&action=edit

Here is my answer…although I am sure this person could case less about the truth.

Morgan had a Queen sized bed, she had lowered it down on to the ground 1/2 way through the stalking, so she wouldn’t have to worry that her stalker could hide under it.  I have been told by other victims that she did the right thing, intuitively.

When we found Morgan her bed had a white mattress cover on it, a down comforter with a comforter cover over it (pulled up her arm), at least 4 pillows, along with pillow cases.  She also had a flat top sheet for her bed that wasn’t on her when we found her – it was crumpled up on the floor.  Morgan’s bottom fitted sheet, the sheet that matched the flat sheet, the sheet that covered the quilted mattress cover was GONE and was never found.  It was there the night before, and it was gone the next morning along with jewelry, drivers license, p.j.’s she was wearing, memory chips out of her camera, an antique special book from her case, and a few other things missing as well.

This was a staged crime scene.  https://www.forensicmag.com/article/2016/12/staged-crime-scenes-suicide-murder-or-disappearance

And sadly enough, I now know it happens a lot more often then it used to.  Her body had been moved postmortem – you could tell by her lividity that she had died in a completely different position then she was found in.  And bodies can not move on their own, as per Michael J. Dobersen, MD, Forensic Pathologist/Medical Examiner, and now retired Coroner for Arapahoe County, Colorado.

Her room showed a struggle!  Vacuum knocked over, clothes that were earlier folded in neat piles on her desk and bed were scattered all over the floor.  Her cell phone tossed under her bathroom door, her laptop on it’s side as though it slid off the bed onto the floor.  The light in her bathroom was left on – she ABSOLUTELY would never leave a light on during the stalking – it always caused more tapping, banging and horrific startles from her stalker.

We found her body curled up (knees drawn up, and bent at the knees, arms bent at the elbows and when her body was put on the floor, as per the 911 operator so Steve could continue CPR, her arms stayed bent with fists pointing towards the ceiling and her legs straightened out.  she was found lying on her right side, on the opposite side of the bed (she never slept on that side), Her body was facing away from her end table, where her panic button was held (later we saw it had been ripped of it mount and tossed in a corner of her room), her eyes were wide open and black, both hands clenched, hair all tangled and matted in a bunch, flattened nose, blood on the inside of her mouth with a little on her fat lip, blood on her forehead, torn nails, abrasions, what looks like an injection mark on her inner arm, abrasion on her breast by her nipple, her neck looked like she had been strangled…he/she or they really worked her over.  She fought hard but couldn’t stop them.  Her pants were unzipped and unbuttoned and she had minute spots that showed up under the UV light to indicate bodily fluids, and yet they didn’t check under her nails, they did not do a rape kit, and did not take a sample of the minute spots on her chest.  A body temperature was never taken so they couldn’t even determine exactly when she died. Shocking, outrageous and all very true!

 

Murderer’s Denial of the Victim…and Victim-blaming

Posted on by

I have read, “Criminals sometimes neutralize wrongdoings by maintaining that the crime victim “had it coming.” This is an example of the technique of neutralization.

In the past year I have heard from a person involved in Morgan’s murder…shocking I know, but not entirely unexpected.  

This female has been in trouble her whole life, and has always blamed others for her wrongdoing – so why stop now.  Does anyone think that a person involved in a criminal activities, like stalking and murder, will just admit what they did, and joyfully go to jail?  I really don’t ever hear of that happening, but I do read many articles about people that starting killing at a young age and were not caught until there were many other victims.  This female has used one-liners over and over when asked if she killed Morgan, as in her famous statement on the Dr. Phil Show, “Show me the proof.”  Ask most criminalists and they will tell you that an answer like that, to a direct question of culpability, is a major red flag…

In the message I received from this female, she said Morgan was an ‘evil psychopath,” and said, “she had it coming,”  and “her death was an accident” (they deny the injury), and she is happy because “Morgan deserved to die” (they deny the responsibility).  She accused Morgan of “destroying people’s lives and making them kill themselves” (they deny the victim).  

This is so “text book.”  This female is delusional.  She is giving herself, and others, a justification for Morgan’s death.  None of what she said to me was true, so it really didn’t upset me, but it was a “glimpse” into the mind of Morgan’s murderer.  Pretty scary stuff, and don’t think for a minute that this person has changed…no, she will only get bolder and harm more people in my opinion.

Syke & Matza (1957) and Matza (1964) wrote their conclusions on the process of delinquent youths becoming criminals as a matter of neutralizing their personal values and attitudes as they drift from conventional behavior and illegitimate behavior.

They deny responsibility, they deny the injury, they deny the victim.

They condemn the condemners.  The say, “It was not my fault,” “No harm was done,” They had it coming.”  In their minds they really believe they can shift the blame and their guilt of the crime in order to lesson the value of the life they destroyed.  Sound familiar?  Well it sure does to me.

This is a very basic article that explains the techniques of neutralization…i.e. Victim-blaming.  Excuses made by the person responsible for the crime in order to shift the blame from them to their victim.

http://www.everydaysociologyblog.com/2008/10/techniques-of-n.html