Morgan Sharing her love with the world
The days are long and I am not sure myself if, like Steve, the realization that she is really gone is stronger now than it has ever been…
There is however, one big shining glow that both of us have to acknowledge – even just yesterday, one of Morgan’s friends expressed, “You should remember that Morgan inspires me to this day to do my best, she was my mirror, reflected who I was when I couldn’t see.” I thought that was so beautiful and I just wanted to share that with you all. More than anything in the world, Morgan CARED. She cared about everyone, she loved so many people, and wanted to help the world.
To all of you who have expressed in some private moment how much Morgan changed your life – for the better, forever – I just want you to know as parents, Steve and I will cherish those very meaningful feelings always, and we love you all for your willingness to tell us about our daughter.
So sincerely,
Steve and Toni
Dr. Phil just went off. We had no idea about Morgan Ingram, as we watch the same TV channels on a daily basis. As watching Dr. Phil, I checked out your blog. I have 4 teens ranging from 14-19, so I am able to imagine the pain you’re going through.
I have said a prayer for you & Steve. I must say that I personally think you need to live & let go. Please don’t get me wrong, I would possibly react in the same way. I’m just saying from one Christian mom to (hopefully) another, that God will take care of this in His own time & His own way. Toni, I truely suggest that whether you & Steve are Christians or not, that you hand this situation over to God. Get help from a Christian Counselor or one you feel comfortable with. You & Steve are not spring chicks. I’m worries that you will kill yourselves in this process. I’m sure you have loved ones that need you as a whole person & if you keep this process up you may not be there for them. So again, I say hand this over to the Lord & let Him take care of you, Steve & Morgan. God bless your family.
Angelina – Thank you so much for your comment. I do believe God will take care of this situation, and is taking care of this situation. I pray every day, and in my gut I know that all the supporters, all the experts that have joined in to help us, and all the people that have come forward so far are due to a higher force.
We are determined to get Morgan’s case opened, both her brother and sister, and our whole family has been behind us, and is a huge force in us being able to go forward. They want justice for there sister, cousin, niece, Goddaughter, Granddaughter, and have verbalized to us that they never want us to give up, and they also know that this is our path – we need to help others going forward (we can’t bring Morgan back), but we can make changes in the stalking protocol that is not being implemented in some places (like here) and save other girls, and families from going through what we are going through. The experts I have spoken to have all said the person that did this to Morgan has probably done it before, and will likely do it again…I can not go forward, as a Christian, and walk away and not intervene. I have always told my children that if you are not part of the solution, then you are part of the problem. It is taking it’s toll on us for sure, but luckily we have beautiful grandchildren that are such a joy, they smile and giggle all the time, and there is love all around us…for that we are forever grateful. We are constantly in contact with our family – we are all very close, very blessed.
When I speak with other stalking victims it still shocks me to my soul that so many people, so many different law enforcement agencies, etc. across the country still do not take it seriously, and the amount of pain and suffering these people go through is just horrible…it is something that stays with them the rest of their lives. Our government is taking stalking seriously, and passing laws to help – each and every state is slowly putting more laws on their books, but law enforcement (not all but some) need to know they need to be accountable to that law – they need to help stalking victims early on and catch these predators before something unspeakable happens…that is what we are trying to do – an awakening.
Toni, I can’t imagine the grief you must be feeling. I’ve been following your blog for a while, after reading the whole journey in one sleepness night, and after all this time looking at Morgan’s picture up there makes me tear up.
I, too, worry about Steve and yourself, but I also hold so much admiration for you.
Your determination seems, to me, not to hold onto Morgan, but to push on and help all those others who might suffer after her. That is so noble. I couldn’t do it. There are people who have hurt me, and I don’t have the strength to deal with them. That you are forcing people to look at cold hard truths, that you are educating people, that you are offering help to so many people when you received so little … it tells me what wonderful souls you have. We are all lucky that you are expending this effort, and I pray that changes are made, changes which will someday save another young girl’s life which would otherwise have been lost.
So thank you, for helping us. And thank Morgan, whose bright spirit so tragically extinguished on earth, still glows brightly enough to make important things happen.
Oh, Ellie thank you for that – I cried when I read what you wrote.
I greatly appreciate your words of encouragement, and understanding. We were so very blessed to have Morgan as our daughter for 20 years, and her beautiful soul, and strength still lives on. For every change for the good we can make, and for every person we can help in the future, I know we could not have done it without Morgan’s spirit guiding, and helping us…so thank you for your support.
I want to start off by saying I am so sorry for your loss I believe deep down from reading follwing your blogs etc that someone somehow your beautiful daughter was murdered only god knows why and of course Morgan I wish their was somehow she could tell us which is not possible I pray for you and your family and continue to hope that justice will be served for you and your beautiful little girl
Thank you Nichole – we are getting very close to this investigation getting opened, and we feel very positive of the outcome. We appreciate your prayers and know there will be justice one of these days. What people sometimes forget is that a predator is still on the loose out there and we do need to protect our loved one. Take care!
Just saw your story on Dr. Phil. Why is it that when the stalker feels stalked it’s wrong??? If she was stalking your daughter then why does she have a reason to complain if you have a blog or stand under her window and howl every night? She is getting a taste of her own medicine (and I am not saying that’s what you are doing because you are definitely NOT my point is if its ok for her then its ok for someone to do it to her) Wrong is wrong even if you are only in high school. You and your family will be in my prayers. I can’t imagine what you have been through and your beautiful daughter did not deserve death or for incompetent law enforcement to not give her death justice.
Mandolin (what a beautiful name) thank you so much for your prayers. The funny thing about what Brooke said on Dr. Phil was that I was stalking her with this blog – that is not the case at all. I have used this blog to tell the facts about what happened to Morgan, not to stalk Brooke or anyone else. Brooke, her father James, and her mother Christina all took out Temporary Restraining Orders against both Steve, and I just before the Dr. Phil show (but told the judge they were not afraid of being on stage with us) stating their fear, because of my blog…our attorney told the judge that was not the correct venue for a TRO as it was my Constitutional right to put online the truth about what I believed happened – it is called the Freedom of Speech Act. The Harris’ told the judge they just needed more time to get together more money to sue us for defamation in Federal Court, so the judge held over the erroneous TRO until mid February when he finally dropped it – can you believe it? This is a typical action of criminals in cases like this to attack the victims financially (they went through free legal services and we had to pay money for a lawyer that we could not afford just to fight it), in the court system, as well as blaming us for all the things they themselves are doing and we are not, as well as cyberstalking (we are getting plenty of that from them, but we just continue to ignore it) + much, much more. The bottom line is their behavior is text book but going forward this treatment of victims needs to end – that is why very soon now the US will have another Amendment to the Constitution all about Cyberstalking and giving “teeth” to some of these infractions. 🙂
Keep your faith and perseverance ,if you believe in your bones that even 1 portion doesn’t add up….you fight back because she is no longer able to fight for herself….in most cases if someone suddenly shows up dead after months of harrasment…the suspected harrasers are interrogated….I’m so Sorry for you and your family, but don’t skip a beat in attempting to get an investigation.have a blessed day
Ia – we won’t – we will keep going stronger and harder everyday and thank you for your words of support!
Dear Toni and Steve,
Just saw your story on dr phil. Iam so sorry for the loss of your daughter Morgan. Iam a mother of three daughters and I just dont know I would handle the loss of any of them. I admire the tenacity that you have in never giving up until you have some answers. Unfortunate as it may be you may never get those answers. I believe that your daughter was NOT suicidal! Happy people dont take their lives. Stalking in this country is taken to lightly and iI believe more should have.been done with in the police department to stop that behavior. The details of her atopsy including no evidence of pills in her stomach, and not having access to those drugs made the maternal.instinct in me well up. I believe everything you believe.happened to your daughter, and the burden of proof may never be met, but the day will.come when each of us meets our maker and i believe that taking a life will never be forgiven, the day will come when justice will.be done for Morgan. Have peace in your heart but never give up the fight! Morgan was worth it!
Before Morgan’s stalking, and murder I would not ever have thought I would be able to survive the loss of one of our children either…some days I still wonder, but no matter how painful it is to get up in the morning, and face the day knowing you will never see your youngest child again, I can still seem to do it because I know Morgan needs me to be her voice now and other stalking victims need our help. So on and on go the days and Steve and I have been so very blessed to have such amazing support from family, friends and people we have never met encouraging us to push on and never give up.
The night Morgan was murdered we found out that she tried to sleep over a friends house (because she had a very bad feeling – she was very intuitive) but her friend’s Aunt had a bad headache so Morgan was told it wasn’t a good night for her to sleep over, Morgan being Morgan never wanted to put anyone out so she just smiled and left and on the way home stopped to talk to another friend to see if they would go home with her – that didn’t work out either, then when she got out of the driveway at our house (around 9 pm) I was outside as always to meet her with pepper spray in my hand, and I started to lecture her about how worried I was between 4 – 6:00 pm when I couldn’t reach her via phone or text message. She was visibly upset because of the uneasy feeling she already had and snapped back at me and went in her room with her puppy. Steve then 15 minutes later went in her room to have a nice father to daughter talk with her (this was extremely normal for them as any of her good friends would tell you) and she was just finishing up sending a text message to her friend and then spent the next 15-20 minutes talking to her dad about happy things and then about the cough she was coming down with. Steve told her that she should let us know in the morning if the cough was any better after a good nights sleep and he was the last person to talk to her. She was normal, but tired, articulate and very Morgan. We know she did not take her own life – we have scientific proof now but even early on no one ever thought that. Over her short 20 years she had helped friends get off drugs, she talked two people that I know of stop themselves from committing suicide and she loved life, she loved her pets, her family and her friends. She had a stalker, she was murdered and we want justice for our daughter so never fear we will not give up the fight!