{"id":11631,"date":"2022-11-23T13:35:39","date_gmt":"2022-11-23T19:35:39","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/morgansstalking.com\/?p=11631"},"modified":"2022-11-23T13:35:39","modified_gmt":"2022-11-23T19:35:39","slug":"surviving-the-holidays","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/morgansstalking.com\/?p=11631","title":{"rendered":"SURVIVING THE HOLIDAYS&#8230;"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><img data-recalc-dims=\"1\" loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" data-attachment-id=\"11632\" data-permalink=\"https:\/\/morgansstalking.com\/?attachment_id=11632\" data-orig-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/morgansstalking.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/11\/Screen-Shot-2022-11-23-at-11.11.15-AM.png?fit=380%2C319&amp;ssl=1\" data-orig-size=\"380,319\" data-comments-opened=\"1\" data-image-meta=\"{&quot;aperture&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;credit&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;camera&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;caption&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;created_timestamp&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;copyright&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;focal_length&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;iso&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;shutter_speed&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;title&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;orientation&quot;:&quot;0&quot;}\" data-image-title=\"Screen Shot 2022-11-23 at 11.11.15 AM\" data-image-description=\"\" data-image-caption=\"\" data-large-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/morgansstalking.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/11\/Screen-Shot-2022-11-23-at-11.11.15-AM.png?fit=380%2C319&amp;ssl=1\" class=\"size-full wp-image-11632 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/morgansstalking.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/11\/Screen-Shot-2022-11-23-at-11.11.15-AM.png?resize=380%2C319&#038;ssl=1\" alt=\"\" width=\"380\" height=\"319\" srcset=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/morgansstalking.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/11\/Screen-Shot-2022-11-23-at-11.11.15-AM.png?w=380&amp;ssl=1 380w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/morgansstalking.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/11\/Screen-Shot-2022-11-23-at-11.11.15-AM.png?resize=300%2C252&amp;ssl=1 300w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/morgansstalking.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/11\/Screen-Shot-2022-11-23-at-11.11.15-AM.png?resize=357%2C300&amp;ssl=1 357w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 380px) 100vw, 380px\" \/><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-family: 'comic sans ms', sans-serif; font-size: 14pt;\">If you are like me, the closer it gets to the holidays, the harder it is to breathe. I try to ignore the pain in my heart, and the deep sadness as much as I can, but it still keeps coming back. The pain is very real, and time cannot take that pain away.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-family: 'comic sans ms', sans-serif; font-size: 14pt;\">Every place I go, every young woman I see with a smile on their face, reminds me that Morgan is gone and can not share the upcoming holiday with us. There will always be that one empty chair at our table.<span class=\"Apple-converted-space\">\u00a0<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-family: 'comic sans ms', sans-serif; font-size: 14pt;\">On Thanksgiving, I will never again hear Morgan humming, while making her pumpkin gooey cake in the kitchen, or prepping her stuffed mushrooms. Never again, will I hear the keyboard playing music, along with her beautiful voice, as she sings and plays a song, while I cook for our guests.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-family: 'comic sans ms', sans-serif; font-size: 14pt;\">I have so much to be grateful for, and I try to remember that every day, but at times like this it is so very hard. Sometimes, all it takes is a smell or a sound, or nothing at all, to reopen that wound, and crush me, right down to my soul.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-family: 'comic sans ms', sans-serif; font-size: 14pt;\">With Thanksgiving arriving tomorrow, in order to survive the holidays, this is what I would like to share with all of you.<span class=\"Apple-converted-space\">\u00a0<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-family: 'comic sans ms', sans-serif; font-size: 14pt;\">Remember, there are NO rules when it comes to surviving grief. When missing a huge part of yourself, you need to do what feels right for you.<\/span><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><span style=\"font-family: 'comic sans ms', sans-serif; font-size: 14pt;\">I have learned not to hide my feelings. I acknowledge my feelings, and let them happen. I no longer hide them from the the people around me. I know that I am not the same person I was before losing Morgan, and never will be again.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li><span style=\"font-family: 'comic sans ms', sans-serif; font-size: 14pt;\">I always try to make the same foods Morgan loved over the holidays &#8211; somehow, I feel it still makes her happy.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li><span style=\"font-family: 'comic sans ms', sans-serif; font-size: 14pt;\">Putting up the tree, seeing Morgan\u2019s ornaments, like her fairies, her dragonflies, and all the ornaments she made as a child, makes me feel like she is still right here with us. Including Morgan, makes my heart feel less empty. <img data-recalc-dims=\"1\" loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" data-attachment-id=\"11382\" data-permalink=\"https:\/\/morgansstalking.com\/?attachment_id=11382\" data-orig-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/morgansstalking.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/05\/Screen-Shot-2021-05-26-at-6.24.50-AM.png?fit=165%2C157&amp;ssl=1\" data-orig-size=\"165,157\" data-comments-opened=\"1\" data-image-meta=\"{&quot;aperture&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;credit&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;camera&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;caption&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;created_timestamp&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;copyright&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;focal_length&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;iso&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;shutter_speed&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;title&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;orientation&quot;:&quot;0&quot;}\" data-image-title=\"Screen Shot 2021-05-26 at 6.24.50 AM\" data-image-description=\"\" data-image-caption=\"\" data-large-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/morgansstalking.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/05\/Screen-Shot-2021-05-26-at-6.24.50-AM.png?fit=165%2C157&amp;ssl=1\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-11382\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/morgansstalking.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/05\/Screen-Shot-2021-05-26-at-6.24.50-AM.png?resize=28%2C27&#038;ssl=1\" alt=\"\" width=\"28\" height=\"27\" srcset=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/morgansstalking.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/05\/Screen-Shot-2021-05-26-at-6.24.50-AM.png?w=165&amp;ssl=1 165w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/morgansstalking.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/05\/Screen-Shot-2021-05-26-at-6.24.50-AM.png?resize=150%2C150&amp;ssl=1 150w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 28px) 100vw, 28px\" \/><\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li><span style=\"font-family: 'comic sans ms', sans-serif; font-size: 14pt;\">When possible, I try to go to at least one party\u2026if I am too sad to go, I do not beat myself up, I just don\u2019t go. Usually, once I go, it can be an uplifting experience. It\u2019s just hard sometimes, because you never know what might trigger those emotional, negative feelings &#8211; just let your heart lead you, and not your mind. Grief is like living through an earthquake, you never know when those aftershocks will hit.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li><span style=\"font-family: 'comic sans ms', sans-serif; font-size: 14pt;\">Changing things up has helped me in the past. Starting new traditions, going to new places, helping others going through similar feelings\u2026this all has helped to lift my spirits.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li><span style=\"font-family: 'comic sans ms', sans-serif; font-size: 14pt;\">Continuing the same holiday rituals we enjoyed with Morgan seems to induce calm, and it makes me feel a sense of order and control during this turbulent time. Feeling grateful. Remembering the beautiful light and love Morgan brought to all our lives makes me grateful to be her mother.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li><span style=\"font-family: 'comic sans ms', sans-serif; font-size: 14pt;\"><span style=\"color: #993300;\">Love<\/span> is the most important thing in this world and I am reminded of that every single day, because I was blessed to have Morgan in my life.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><img data-recalc-dims=\"1\" loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" data-attachment-id=\"11633\" data-permalink=\"https:\/\/morgansstalking.com\/?attachment_id=11633\" data-orig-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/morgansstalking.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/11\/IMG_1895.jpeg?fit=1124%2C998&amp;ssl=1\" data-orig-size=\"1124,998\" data-comments-opened=\"1\" data-image-meta=\"{&quot;aperture&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;credit&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;camera&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;caption&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;created_timestamp&quot;:&quot;1628185043&quot;,&quot;copyright&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;focal_length&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;iso&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;shutter_speed&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;title&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;orientation&quot;:&quot;1&quot;}\" data-image-title=\"IMG_1895\" data-image-description=\"\" data-image-caption=\"\" data-large-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/morgansstalking.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/11\/IMG_1895.jpeg?fit=584%2C518&amp;ssl=1\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-11633\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/morgansstalking.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/11\/IMG_1895.jpeg?resize=584%2C519&#038;ssl=1\" alt=\"\" width=\"584\" height=\"519\" srcset=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/morgansstalking.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/11\/IMG_1895.jpeg?w=1124&amp;ssl=1 1124w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/morgansstalking.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/11\/IMG_1895.jpeg?resize=300%2C266&amp;ssl=1 300w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/morgansstalking.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/11\/IMG_1895.jpeg?resize=1024%2C909&amp;ssl=1 1024w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/morgansstalking.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/11\/IMG_1895.jpeg?resize=768%2C682&amp;ssl=1 768w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/morgansstalking.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/11\/IMG_1895.jpeg?resize=338%2C300&amp;ssl=1 338w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 584px) 100vw, 584px\" \/><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>If you are like me, the closer it gets to the holidays, the harder it is to breathe. 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